Skip navigation! Refinery29 Team. Last Updated February 23, , AM. Thanks for reading Can We Talk? This week, we heard from three Refinery29 readers with three different approaches to tackling the financials in their partnerships. Have a question about facing a new life transition with a partner, like going to or graduating from college or moving?
Submit it here to see answered as part of a future Can We Talk column? Janie Frank, 27, Chattanooga, TN. For a long time, for Janie Frank, home sounded like the slice of scissors on coupon paper.
It stuck. And it's paid off, especially since she's the main money manager within her polyamorous throuple. It wasn't always that way, though.
Janie met her partners Cody Coppola and Maggie Odell in Coppola and Odell were already together at that time, and Frank first assumed her relationship with them would be casual and fleeting. It wasn't. In time, she was meeting Coppola's and Odell's families and spending nearly every night at their place. The first time money really came into play was when Coppola and Odell decided to buy a king-sized bed to accommodate all of three them, and Frank offered to chip in.
She says: "I remember offering to pay some of the rent because I was always there constantly, but they never took me up on that. After the move-in, the three kept their finances separate and evenly split the rent, utilities, groceries, and necessities like toilet paper. There were some exceptions. Sometimes one person would treat the others to coffee. And, at that time, Frank made less money than the others , so if she couldn't afford something she needed or really wanted, her partners often offered to cover her.
