Posted by Sandy Weiner in understanding men over 40 1 comment. Partnership is a team, a shared soul level relationship. A partnership is like a teeter totter, where each is fully engaged. You participate together. Many people rush into their relationships. We finally meet someone great. We feel a strong connection. He ticks off the important items on our must have list. We fall in love. In true partnership, love is stronger than it is in a relationship.
But, to get closer. They value the relationship more than their ego. In relationships, you can have different ideas about the future. The reason many relationships fail is couples come together because of feelings and chemistry, and when the feelings are gone, the relationship is over. In a partnership, a couple nurtures the feelings forged in a relationship every day. If relationships are about finding the feelings, partnerships are about proving how real they are.
A partnership is about emotional integrity. Relationships can look great on the outside, but are often unstable on the inside. The solid foundation is missing, and when that happens, they fall apart. Partnerships take time, practice and trust. It takes effort, and putting your ego aside to be there for each other. In partnership, you are two stable, confident and caring people looking out for one another, but never dependent on each other to feel whole and complete.
In relationships, there is often anxiety, which can be what keeps sexual tension going for some time. We seek pleasure in relationships to escape pain β the pain of being alone, the pain of rejection, the pain of feeling unworthy.
When a couple reaches the stage of partnership, they are not trying to escape or fill a void. There are no more extreme highs and lows. There is less uncertainty and anxiety. There is stability and comfort. People say they want to be in a relationship, but few couples can handle being in partnership.
