So I sat down ask a Dominatrix the most common questions that you have always wanted to know the juicy answers to. While she wishes to remain anonymous due to the nature of her work and the public reception that she would receive, she was kind enough to answer all my questions via a Zoom call. I, personally, do not actually have sex or provide physical sexual release for any of my clients, although that is a decision to be made by each individual worker on their own.
I provide an environment for people to give up control of themselves and their needs to a competent, stern yet loving caretaker. I strongly consider myself a type of unconventional therapist! While my clients may gain gratification from my actions, my goal is to allow for them to work through both control issues and allow a controlled regression to a safe mental and emotional place for them.
Every rule within actions I have offered , as to what occurs to the submissive is decided by the submissive only and those limits are set in stone. I, though I am viewed as the one in control, can and will only go as far as my sub has consented to allow me.
I have my own guidelines and rules, and while being suspended from your apartment ceiling with homemade hemp rope may sound great, it really becomes an awkward insurance call waiting to happen. Last but not least, I am a person myself, not an object for you to use, respect me as such. In other words, the market was there. I found myself another Dominatrix to shadow and learn from and eventually went to work with her and her security guard so that I could learn the ropes haha safely.
While I do not do so, I am willing to pass them on to people that do or provide praise or degradation both before and after they achieve the intended goal through self stimulation. Always study under another Domme first, have security on speed dial, and have a contract of all rules and limits on paper! I also find it helpful to allow yourself if you are comfortable with it , to be the submissive to someone else that you trust first, so that you fully understand what you are asking of your clients and what the effects of your actions will be.
