I had an affair, remarried and moved out of the country, leaving my year-old daughter with my ex-husband. I snapped out of it 15 years ago with the help of a good psychiatrist and excellent medication. I deeply regret my behavior, and I have made every effort to change things. However, my relationship with my daughter has never recovered in spite of my apologies, sorrow and deep shame.
Fast-forward: My daughter got married recently and invited her father but not me. I was devastated. I have been trying so hard for so many years to reestablish trust and show her I love her. I love my daughter very much. Can you think of anything I can do to heal our relationship, or must I just bump along unless and until she forgives me? Continue talking with your therapist for guidance.
This individual is most familiar with your history and how hard you have tried to repair the damage you caused. She retired several months ago and has told me a couple of times since then that she has stopped wearing bras. I thought she meant around the house, but she means all the time.
But I cringe having Erin around my husband and other friends, and I no longer want to go out and about with her. Am I a prude? If this were something occasional, I would ignore it. But this seems to be forever.
If I say something, what should I say? If she asks why you have distanced yourself, be truthful. You may be doing her a favor.
