This post originally appeared on xoJane. So when I found myself single a few years later and decided to enter into the dating world, I realized that my dilemma was twofold; not only did I understand very little about how single people went about being a couple, but when I found one I might want to couple with, I had to figure out how to tell them about my rather unconventional day job.
I know plenty of girls in my industry who have partners who are not in the business and who are quite happy. Contrary to what people will tell you, just as there are tons of people who would never date a sex worker, there are also plenty of people in prestigious occupations with designer educations that would LOVE to marry a porn star.
May not make sense to everyone, but it only has to make sense to the two of them. When I first became single, I had been doing porn for about a year, but I performed exclusively with women, which, for whatever reason, is more "forgivable" to a lot of people.
I wasn't really interested in getting emotionally invested in someone else. But I also didn't worry too much about what might happen if I ever wanted to date a "civilian," since I wouldn't have to explain much more than that I had sex with women on camera sometimes.
They'd probably get into a high fiving contest with their friends. I was spoiled. If I wanted great sex with a hot guy who wasn't going to try to bog me down in emotional stuff, I could just call one of my coworkers. And so that's what I did for a while; just slept with my work friends who kept it cool but satisfied the physical urges with the added bonus of no explanations required. It wasn't until a year later when I started shooting scenes with men as well that it hit me.
