In fact, individuals aged report 3 times the national average of dating violence compared to older adults. In these cases, combustion is often inevitable. Relationship violence is something that victims and perpetrators often go to extreme lengths to hide. This is why keeping open lines of communication with your teen is so important. Talk with and model these elements in your own romantic relationships as well as in your relationship with your teen.
When you walk the walk along with talking the talk, your teen is much more likely to listen and follow suit. It is also essential that you discuss potential red flags in relationships. Using examples from tv and pop culture can give your teen enough emotional distance to be able to recognize unhealthy patterns and relationship dynamics. Initially, this attention can feel flattering.
Everyone likes being the center of attention. But constant texts, possessiveness, and paranoia are signs that something is amiss. Pushes, slaps, or forms of intimidation. Things that your teen may want to rationalize or brush off, could be evidence that a larger issue is at play.
Addressing unhealthy relationship concerns can be tricky for parents and concerned friends of a person in the relationship. Forbidding contact may push the relationship into further secrecy and drive it underground. Contact the appropriate authorities, communicate with the school and make sure that your teen is protected. Keep them involved in activities and healthy outlets within their support network.
Take phones away at night to limit potentially negative interactions. If your teen finds him or herself repeating unhealthy relationship patterns or is struggling to end a relationship, consider reaching out to a local therapist who provides individual or group therapy and understands teen issues. This can help them develop self confidence, establish healthy boundaries, incorporate effective communication skills, and address any trauma that may be present from instances in their past.
