Dear Eric: My brother is 22 years old and has always had a girlfriend, though none of the relationships have ever lasted. His previous girlfriends have been controlling and possessive, to the point that he breaks up with them. His current girlfriend seems to be the same way, but he is head over heels for her.
Not only is she possessive and wants him to spend all his time with her, but it appears that she is a pathological liar. She has lied to him, my family and other people we know, then gets defensive when caught in the lies.
She also tells my family about her troubled childhood and family life with stories that seem extremely far-fetched. They are spending more and more time together, to the point that he never does anything with his friends or family and when he does, she gets upset with him and gaslights him or cries. I love my brother, and I trust his judgment, but I am extremely worried about his relationship becoming abusive.
My parents are concerned as well. Should I bring up my concerns to him or just let it play out? So, please talk to him. He may not see the issues that you do, or he may be glossing them over. Hearing the perspective of a loved one could open his eyes more. But do talk to him, adult to adult. We could all use a caring opinion sometimes. Dear Eric: My family lives in a small apartment building and we really enjoy our neighbors.
However, it seems I have become the go-to person and there are many, many packages to look out for. Can you suggest how I might handle this dilemma with minimal damage to my good relationships with likeable neighbors? Talking to your neighbors on a case-by-case basis will work best. Send questions to R. Eric Thomas at eric askingeric. Box , Philadelphia, PA Follow him on Instagram and sign up for his weekly newsletter at rericthomas. Eric Thomas. More in Advice.
