She's one of thousands of people using online Fetish hook up site - FetLife - a kinky website where people go to find like-minded fetishists to carry our their deepest, darkest fantasies. The year-old has been using the site to hook up with people for six years and was originally introduced to the community by her then boyfriend. Threads about different fantasies - ranging from prostitute roleplay to oral sex orgies - are listed on the homepage, and users are encouraged to join them and meet people who they can they direct message to arrange to carry out their dream fantasies with - either privately or at one of the site's events.
From bondage, threesomes and dressing up as animals to 'nappy sex' and shoe fetishes - in this online community, anything goes. For most blokes, the idea of a good-looking, muscly man having sex with their wife upstairs while they're doing the dishes would be their worst nightmare. The year-old gets turned on by being humiliated - and uses FetLife to find men to come round to his house and have sex with his wife while he listens from the other room. So I get invited to their place when she needs a longer session.
While this scenario - known as cuckolding - may be baffling to some, for the users of FetLife, it's the norm. To the innocent eye, FetLife initially looks like any other social networking site - but don't be fooled.
Like any Facebook or Instagram account, users set up a profile with a profile photo and some basic information about themselves - including their name and age - and they can then add 'friends' who share similar interests. Users then reveal their more unusual sexual preferences, including whether they're dominant or submissive or enjoy swinging. More niche fantasises are also common, with people indicating their love of slave roleplay, master and mistress scenarios and even "princess-to-slut" fantasies.
Within the site there's a forum for members to ask the more sexually experienced for advice and discuss kinks. Users can also select a city and arrange meet ups - from hanging out in the park vanilla-style to visiting transgender club nights and trying out one of the site's event, like their rope play night. Other fetishes that people discuss include nappy sex - one user tells us how he makes his own from black garbage bags. He sits on top of a ripped bag on the floor, ties it together and plays in dirt and mud β sometimes alone, sometimes with others.
