I am a year-old woman who has gone on online dates over the past two years. A few good dates โ and too many that were really bad. There are many articles and books that give single women over 50 advice about getting out there and dating. I have found this barrage of how-to-find-love-again material contradictory. So, let me be straight up: This is not an advice column for ways to find a mate on a dating site. I read everything about dating over the age of 50 before I hopped online.
I was hoping someone would tell it like it is. They have not, so I will. Here I will take you on my comical, awful, totally honest online search for companionship. How I Got Into It I had been divorced for eight years, and my son was now a teenager and less dependent on me. I had moved to a new area with lots of professional men over I had quite a few year-old friends doing online dating and saying they were finding a love match.
I thought, Well I can do this, too. I am an attractive, accomplished woman, so now is the time to get out there and find that guy whom I deserve and deserves me. Most importantly, I still rock the 6-inch heels at age 58! Really, I was just looking to have a fun, intelligent conversation with someone, with hopes that chemistry might be there! I was thinking, This is great! In hindsight, I did not understand the game. Even though I did not engage with the young ones, I was excited when the and somethings hit me up.
Come to find out, many of these people are not who they say they are. They are scammers trying to get in your pants or get your money by wooing you with sweet words. Well, I did not wire the money but felt foolish for ignoring the other men while I focused on this thief for almost a month โ because I was taken by his looks. More Lies, Lies, Lies One thing I have learned about many online prospects is that they are really convincing liars.
While I did not specify on my profile anything about height or weight, I did cite education expectations and, of course, expected them not to be married. The one date that always comes to mind is the man who lied about everything. He lied about his age, his education, where he lived, his marital status and his employment. Although the fake image he portrayed when I agreed to a phone call turned out to be so fun, I said yes to meeting him in person.
