The world of disability fetish can be fascinating, and full of adventure. Credit: Synergee iStockphoto. Accessible unconventional sensual exploration is a complicated business for far too many Deaf and disabled people. Are we getting what we want?
Kath Duncan says she is It's TMI time. I love these gigs, hopping the globe, the airwaves, websites, stages, conferences and events, big and small, flaunting Cripsex. Tip for a great cripsex life no. You will absolutely have sex. At 15 I remember telling my school friends that my desire was to have many lovers, gender unspecified. I took it for granted I would have many sensual opportunities as an adult, despite being told by my mum, my teachers, my doctors and my society that I should prepare myself for disappointment in the love stakes because I was born with major limb differences.
I'm proud of the fact that I worked hard not to believe them. I had help. At 17, my younger sister and older brother drew me into their young adults' performing company, City Road Youth Theatre in Sydney. I was torn from suburban banalities and being secretary of the local Young Liberals branch, into a bigger, sexier world.
Bisexuality is fun. I have played with many people, fallen in love with ten, lived with five, and assumed every Deaf and disabled person was also engaged in happy sensual frenzies. Not so, according to research. Just one Australian report, Sexual Esteem, Sexual Satisfaction, and Sexual Behavior Among People With Physical Disability , found people with disabilities had lower sexual esteem and higher sexual depression negative mood state due to sexual functioning than persons without disabilities, "including a belief that they are less sexually desirable than an able-bodied person and that having a disability seriously limits their sexual expression.
In my late 30s, like the icing on my Cripsex cake, I discovered a new frontier: disability fetish. I was immediately fascinated by why differences are sexy. I didn't find any succinct answers And then I had an encounter with my first amputee fetishist and my Cripsex life changed forever. I felt like a supermodel, is the best way I could describe it I don't think many women - and certainly even fewer men - get to be worshipped like that.
