Children who are around adults who shout loudly, argue a lot or ignore each other often, don't see and learn how to resolve conflict in a healthy way. This can have a negative effect on their view of what a healthy relationship is. It can negatively impact on feeling safe within the family environment, doing well in school, and their own mental health. Remember - parental conflict is very different to domestic abuse. No-one should ever make you feel threatened or unsafe; if this is the case there is support available to you.
Read more about domestic abuse and support available. It is common for parents who are in a relationship to have disagreements from time to time. If arguments and disagreements are dealt with in a healthy way, it can set a good example for children, helping them learn how to deal with conflict in their own lives.
When you and your partner begin to learn and understand how to communicate with one another in a positive way, this will help children feel more loved by you both.
Try and find time to do something together. It could be switching off your phones and watching a film or asking someone in your family network to look after the children and enjoy one-to-one time. Hear what each other feels and has to say about the issue you are discussing.
Sometimes you might need to meet in the middle or understand where the other person is coming from and why they feel the way they do about the topic. This can change a bad argument into a positive and helpful conversation.
