Anything to do with female sexuality has been, and continues to be, taboo in the strongest sense of the word. This is what fuels my work as a sex therapist turned neuroscientist βand exactly what I explore in my Glamour column, Ask.
Nan, and in my new book, Why Good Sex Matters. The truth is we probably know just as much if not more about the composition of the fluids that flowed on the surface of Mars billions of years ago than we do about the nature of what is expelled by the human female during sex or when women are cumming.
How is that possible, given references to female ejaculation date back to fourth-century Taoist texts? We can partially blame the stigma. But the result is that we remain so clueless about squirting that some medical professionals continue to insist that any fluid that leaks out of a woman during sex is urineβa result of incontinence. Because the science of squirting is woefully sparse, this is up for debate.
The short answer is that when fluids build up in the erectile tissue of the urethral sponge, they need to be released. Some believe that the fluids expelled during sex may function to protect the urinary system from infection by cleansing the urethra during and after intercourse. The volume of female ejaculate can vary widelyβranging from small, barely noticeable amounts to gushing streamsβso there is big variability in how women define and report their experience.
The first step in learning how to ejaculate involves masturbating. My research has shown that strengthening your pleasure pathways by experiencing pleasure regularly can make orgasms more accessible. Build arousal through vigorous and repetitive stimulation of the G-spot. You can find it by reaching into the vagina with a toy or a finger while angling up in the direction of your belly. Winston suggests bearing down with your abdominal and pelvic floor muscles as you feel an orgasm approaching.
