Ask Anna is a sex column. Because of the nature of the topic, some columns contain language some readers may find graphic. Dear Anna,. I have been married for nearly 20 years to the most wonderful, beautiful woman. We adapt and make the most of it when we can. The problem for me is when my wife goes down on me, my full staff starts to falter.
It feels very, very good and I have mind-popping orgasms nearly every time. But it really bugs me and I fear that it makes her feel slighted.
This wilting never happens when we have intercourse, and it fires right up when I go down on her. If this is in my mind, do you have any thoughts to help?
Plus, men have it a little harder in the arousal arena. Unlike women, who can pretty much fake their way from arousal to orgasm, men have very visual signals of arousal. And we can feel slighted when faced with a bout of lap taffy, even if we know that we have nothing to do with it. The most important thing is not to put pressure on yourself—because that will only take the wind out of your nether sails even more.
Pun intended. Who cares how hard your beef bayonet is? The long actually helpful answer is: Like I have said before, many people get off just as much from pleasuring others as they do being pleased, and you seem to be of the same party. This means you could probably benefit from more sensory stimulation to distract you from thinking too much.
