Shows like Insecure, Chewing Gum and She's Gotta Have It have stirred up real conversation around black female sexuality and what it means for women to unapologetically take control of our bodies. I wanted to know what some of our metro Detroit ladies had to say, so I invited several single black women between the ages of 18 and 35 to our office for a bit of uninhibited girl talk.
Topics like orgasms, limits and bisexuality got written down and shook up in a bag and each of the ladies chose at random. We didn't get to them all, but here's an overview of some of the highlights. All names have been changed and most "quotes" have been paraphrased. Most of our women said they were exposed to porn pretty early on, and most thought that porn places extra pressure on women to look a certain way and perform a certain way ….
Denise: I started watching porn before I even started having sex for educational purposes. I don't watch it as much since I started having sex. Tracey: Porn doesn't really do anything for me.
I don't get aroused at all. Pam: My ex-husband and I used to make amateur porn. But we'd only put it online overseas, like in Germany. Felicia: Porn can be so degrading to women, and unless it's girl-on-girl, it's never about the girl. You never see the guy give the girl head for more than like a minute. The general consensus was that one of the biggest turn-offs when dealing with a guy is insecurity …. Rachel: My first sexual experiences were with female friends growing up, nothing past around age Tracey: I used to have sex with women, but I haven't in several years.
Felicia: I would be open to a threesome with my boyfriend, but I would be worried about picking up a random girl. What if she has something?
