Need help getting started? Unlock your own day journey to a more meaningful life. To feel more connected, skip the small talk and ask these questions instead. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want? If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know? If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living?
Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items. How close and warm is your family? If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for them to know. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item.
What would it be? Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen. You can try this practice with different people you want to develop a deeper connection withβbut if your answers start to feel routine, consider making up your own list of questions that become increasingly more personal.
Two couples can also try this practice together , which has been shown to increase closeness between the couples in addition to enhancing closeness and passionate love within each couple. Building close relationships in adulthood can be challenging.
Many social situations call for polite small talk, not heart-to-heart conversations, making it difficult to really connect deeply with people. Research suggests that spending just 45 minutes engaging in self-disclosure with a stranger can dramatically increase feelings of closeness between you.
