Do you run? But you care. You really care. True love is about connection, trust, intimacy, and compassion. And yet, no one wants to date someone who looks like shit. Style is important to me. A few years ago, in a momentary lapse of judgement, I let a friend set me up on a blind date.
The guy sounded great on paper: an architect, well traveled, had built an orphanage in Mexico or something low-key colonial like that. But then he showed up wearing jeans that gripped exclusively around his thighs and a tank top with confusingly large arm holes. Red flag s. The way we dress is part of how we construct our personal narrative. Instead, I dress like Elle Woods at a sex party, but in a way that attempts to be meta and self-aware. Clara worked in fashion in New York until her recent move to Los Angeles.
Initially, she was excited about her new, aggressively meditative, Prius-sponsored, dad-jeans L. But as soon as she started dating, she was hit with style culture shock. And beanies in degree weather.
But she argues that style differences can be representative of larger incompatibilities. How true. Like, I normally love the way my boyfriend dresses. However, sometimes his casual look can be triggering. Or is this just who you really are?
For the whole day I was painfully aware of whether people were looking at his feet. It felt like living inside a commercial for anxiety medication.
