A decade ago, my plans for coming to China included teaching for a year, two Dating was not part of my plan, so when it happened, I was completely unprepared for it. Looking back, I would have loved to know what I was getting myself into or at least some advice on navigating Chinese dating culture. Both talk about their relationships with their Chinese significant others.
Chinese guys, with pressure from their parents and coming from a different culture of dating, by-and-large date to marry. So much so, that my husband didn't ask to date me, he asked me to be with him for the rest of his life. Compared to most of their Western counterparts, Chinese men start thinking about marriage much earlier in the relationship. So, if you're dating a Chinese guy, make sure to figure out what the both of you want out of the relationship so you can manage expectations.
I've heard stories from second-hand sources about Chinese women wanting to date to get better at English or get a green card. All of the Chinese women that have married Western men that I know of have returned to his home country soon after the wedding. They just seem to be more open to the idea of leaving. Read more about what Chinese women love about Western guys. In contrast though, Chinese guys who date Western women, tend to stay in China.
Part of this comes from their obligation to care for their aging parents and grandparents. Also it's easier for them to continue their career here, especially if they're older and already established in their career.
As for free English lessons, although my husband and I only communicate in English, I know of several couples who speak Chinese because their boyfriend or husband doesn't speak a word of it.
