I am 23, a virgin, and have never had a romantic relationship with a man besides a date. A few weeks ago I recently went for a night out drinking with three guys that I work with. The night was fun, but took a different turn than I expected once Greg started getting really drunk. She ended up leaving and when I approached him to say he should get home he asked me if I would go with him and sleep with him. I told him no because he was really drunk, but said I would give him a ride home.
When we got to his house he invited me in and we talked for a while before we kissed. We started making out eventually and he asked me to spend the night. The next morning was awkward, neither one of us saying much, and we agreed to just see each other at work. We spent the night talking and watching movies and I slept over again, though nothing physical happened.
A few days later he sent me a flirty text and we spent the night flirting, agreeing to meet up again. I went over later in the week and we talked, watched movies, made out I initiated it , and played chess until 5 in the morning and I spent the night again. A few days ago we had another work outing at a bar and each of us said how it was a possibility we would go home together again.
As we left the bar he texted me to say I should come over if I wanted, so I did. At his place he shared personal things with me and eventually we went to his room. We almost had sex, but I stopped it. He respected my decision, but I think he was upset and we did other stuff which I enjoyed without actually having sex. I am a major overthinker, something he knows and has been trying to help me with. My questions are:. Should I just relax and enjoy this despite the fact I want it to be something more?
Does Greg seem like a good guy? He told you exactly what is going on: He is not emotionally attached to you, does not want to be exclusive with you, and does not want to date you. Believe this information! There are lots of things that people say when they want to sleep with you but not to actually be with you. He thinks that by being preemptively honest with you about all of the above that it absolves him from any responsibility to ever care about your feelings.
