This person has made a social gathering place a hostile environment, repeatedly, by non-consentually and repeatedly dragging private information out into the public eye. He is the rapist equivalent of a mass murerer. He cares so little for anyone else's rights or privacy, and yet, calls foul whenever there is a hint that his own abuses might be shown to the world. He repeatedly violates the rules and social conventions of that space. I do hope, someday he becomes aware of how many people he has hurt, how many people he has chased away from possible education, and understanding, crippling them, as he claims to be crippled as a child.
He has repeatedly gone out of his way to make a social environment hosile to me and mine by taking things that are or should be private, and dragging them nonconsensually into the greater public eye. He violates my consent, on a global basis, like the rapisr equivalent of a mass murderer. Bullied his way into joining the BDSM student group at his university, causing many female and FAAB members to drop out from discomfort; had a reputation for non-BDSM-related consent violations and for being a sexual predator on campus, including groping female students while they were intoxicated or unconscious and giving underage prospective students alcohol to get them drunk and then propositioning them for sex.
When I was new to the scene, I briefly had a relationship with hephaestus During that relationship, he pressured me into having kinds of sex and play that I did not enjoy. He had unprotected sex with others without my knowledge. When I discovered this, he gaslit my concerns about my boundaries and my health. After I ended the relationship, he sexually assaulted me while we were both sleeping over at a mutual friend's house. He got into the bed I was sharing with a female friend and put his hands under my pajamas, touching my back and genitals nonconsensually.
He thought I was sleeping. I later found out that I wasn't the first person he abused this way; I met another one of his victims at a national kink convention. Their story was remarkably similar to mine. Yelled at me at a munch. Not that there's an acceptable reason to yell at someone at a munch, but he yelled at me for no reason. I no longer attend local munches because of this. At the same munch he also did that acupressure squeeze thing on another attendee's thumb-webbing without her permission.
I sent an email to a friend immediately after this incident. I was shocked. Nobody seemed to notice. I was icy towards him the rest of the night. That was a line crossed. I'll not willingly share the same social space with him anymore I've never seen him yell before, it was really strange, like sudden onset dementia that vanishes just as fast. But I recognized that it was abusive behavior. Anyways, yeah. Oz insisted she give him her hand not asking, I carefully note, insisting. He's a little out-of-control.
