Warning: This post contains aggressive and harmful language that many women encounter on a daily basis. Reader discretion is advised. Out of nowhere, I got a message from a complete stranger that said, 'You are so fat and ugly you should kill yourself. Being alone is better than dealing with that kind of negativity and cruelty. At the time, I was working 3 jobs, 7 days a week, 8β16 hours per day. So, you could say I was busy. This dude messaged me first on a dating app.
I messaged back, then he messaged back, but I didn't see it or respond to it for like 3β4 days because I was busy with life. Once I did respond, he started going off on me like a goddamn sociopath. He started by calling me 'the George Clooney of responding to people. Then, he started in on the typical entitled, white male response of calling me fat, ugly, and a slut because I had the audacity to wait three or four whole days to respond to his bullshit message of 'good morning.
What drew you to my profile? He did not deal with rejection well. He also proceeded to find me on Insta, send me god-awful messages that led me to reporting him and Insta deactivating his account. He then 'coincidentally' took a casual job through Airtasker at the same place my sister worked and harassed her for being related to me. He's popped up on other dating apps attempting to contact me, and I've reported him at every turn.
He's actually made me fearful for me and my son's safety. A guy I'd matched with started the conversation by asking, and I quote, 'Are you too small to 69; this is my key question? Why is it that they only think plus-size women are there for their sexual pleasure? Fuck off, that's what vibrators are for. I canceled on him, then had to block him on Facebook.
Lesson learned: Never add someone on socials before you meet them and wear whatever the hell makes you feel comfortable. He went on to tell me that I was being selfish by having a career and that my biological clock was ticking. My confidence was coming back and I got back on some dating apps. This guy messaged me and within seconds invited me to 'stop by' his house. I declined and stated how I like to meet in public for first, offline meetings.
