Not because I believe that dating sites are only useful to facilitate quick sex and no-strings-attached physical encounters. This might seem counter-intuitive, so at the risk of seeming unclear, here are the three major reasons why women should avoid writing this on their profile:.
The only REAL effective filter is judging guys based on their actions and looking for little signs in actual conversation. And nothing is more unattractive to a new partner than someone who still lives with previous emotional baggage. Taking on this role makes it so much harder to appear fun, relaxed, open and willing to embrace that tingle of spontaneity that occurs when you first start dating someone new.
It sucks the fun and mystery away and makes a man feel like he is more being sized up for a relationship than just getting to know and connect with you. Good guys resent being treated like bad ones. No-one likes being the object of suspicion and doubt. Stephen Hussey helped co-write the Get The Guy book and is a wealth of knowledge on dating and relationships.
Great article, Stephen. Well done. I really like that you and Matthew focus on empowering women to discern a quality man based on his behavior and not just his words.
Thanks for all you do! Oh wait I forgot, the sexual revolution and our own willingness to participate has literally and figuratively screwed us. In my experience, the free dating sites typically have less desirable men to date.
