I respect your privacy and only subscribe you to what you've specifically requested. Unsubscribe at any time. But most of all, I needed validation that he missed me, that he cared. I cared, but if I dig deep, I cared about how I looked in the context of him not caring. His lack of effort to keep in touch ate away at me. One day I got him on the phone, and I let rip.
We had an awful argument which I managed to do with clenched teeth in a low voice in the office. As I listened to myself, I suddenly wondered what the hell I was doing. You left me. Deep embarrassment struck.
In hindsight, I recognise that I was emotionally demanding and getting hijacked by my ego. I left him alone after that. They very likely did care about you and possibly even still do, but the relationship is over. Not moving on with your life does not equate to still caring about someone. It means that you may be stuck and hurting. Pain is not love. You did mean something to them, but you may have different ideas of what that should be. Once the relationship is over, hard as it is to hear, we have no right to make emotional demands on ex-partners.
Part of the reason why we look for validation from our exes and wonder if they still care about us is that we are in pain. This is because we are still hurting and struggling to move on. The relationship is broken. Be careful β this is a game that never ends well. Not all relationships are meant to work out. If you accepted less than who you are and what you need in this relationship, then you already know this.
Exhausting work. Trueβ¦but what people always forget is this:. Validate your own perception of the relationship. Accept that they cared, but that for whatever reason the relationship is over. You cannot quantify how much someone cared for you and literally count it up like money, but you can tell by the relationship you were in.
